The unknown. It can give us so many stress related problems with our bodies and mental health.
Like I said in yesterday’s post about “adulting” leave it to the universe. How can we stress about something that isn’t certain?
I take what is infront of me, the things I can and do have control over. I leave the rest up to whatever is to be will be.
I think a lot of that comes with maturity, getting older and not worrying or stressing about the uncertainty. As we age we learn to let things go and concentrate on what’s there.
I don’t have the energy or patience to think of what could happen. I don’t let the uncertainty run miles in my mind stressing over something I have no idea of what’s going to happen.
We can drive ourselves crazy thinking of the scenarios that play out in our minds of the possibilities of the unknown.
Today is what I concentrate on. Remember that song, Whatever will be, will be.
Focus on what’s infront of you, things you have control over and leave the rest up to the big guy upstairs 🙏
What’s a moment when you realized you were officially an adult?
A moment I realized I was officially an adult was when I, we, my past life, bought our first house. I was so young, 23, but I now had a mortgage and a baby and I was adulting. Before that though I had been on my own for 5 years so I had to grow up fast and had to “adult”.
I’ve always felt so young. Even today at 56. I don’t feel like I’m an adult. I feel childish at times and always want to have fun. I’ve been blessed with a child like personality and see the good side of things even through the bad. I am a very happy person and love to laugh. I take life as it comes and deal with it the best I can.
That’s all part of adulting, learning to concentrate on the important things. Leave what you can’t control in the hands of the unknown. Don’t carry what isn’t yours.
Life isn’t all about adulting, make time to be silly and free your inner child but be responsible and accountable. Be a good person and instill those qualities on people around you.
I’m an adult yes, but I never forget to have fun and free my inner child!
I can’t say any one Author I would choose, they are all so good.
My first real novel reading was started by my mom giving me a Danielle Steel book. I fell in love with her stories and the way she wrote. She kept me intrigued and excited to read her new novels. I read her for years, along with Stephen King and others. Sandra Brown is a favorite as well.
One question I would have to ask is, “How do these stories keep coming to you?”
I’m a children’s book Author and published my first children’s book in 2021. I have another book ready to go to the publishers. I keep thinking, will I run out of ideas, or will the kids and parents enjoy this new book? 🤔
My mission with these books is to show children that being different is unique. Showing kindness, empathy, and acceptance. Teaching children that we are all loved just as we are.
I did not write these books for money or fame. I wrote them to share my message to hundreds of people all over the world.
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?
I can hear him now, “Just listen”. That’s what my dad would tell me all the time. I love to talk and sometimes I would talk too much. Not about anybody or gossip, I would just tell people more than they had to know.
It took me a long long time to figure that out. I went through some betrayal and had things thrown in my face from sharing to much or just opening up to someone that doesn’t have the best intentions.
I now tell my daughter the same thing. “Just listen” or silence is golden. It is very hard to do. She loves to share absolutely every detail of the story she’s telling. I sometimes cringe 😬…ohhh don’t say that.
A lot of people don’t like silence, they will talk just to talk. Silence makes them uncomfortable.
I now listen and stay silent when I need too or know too. I keep things to myself or talk to my hubby. I think before I speak and ask myself, do they really need to know? The answer is usually, no.
What’s a quote that perfectly describes your outlook on life?
It’s a quote from the Old Testament, Book of Job (Job1:21)
“The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away”
It is not a rule nor is it a law. It is a way of life. It’s the blessings we receive while on earth. The blessings of the Lord and our passed loved ones. It’s about believing and feeling it in your soul and heart. It’s living right. Helping one another. Offering love and patience and a gentle hand, listening and speaking truth.
Life is a lesson. We are here to learn and to make life the best we can, take every opportunity. Enjoy what you have and love those who love you. Be grateful for each blessing. Your thoughts become your reality. So be careful what you let sit and take up space in your mind.
My husband and I saw the headlines years ago when Tiger Woods and his first wife split after she went after him with a golf club, finding out about his affairs. He had everything a person could want. Successful PGA golfer, a beautiful wife, children and anything at his fingertips! He was the world’s number ONE golfer! I understand the addiction part of it of course, but I just knew his career would be greatly impacted.
All I said after watching the news that day was, “The Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away”
When given blessings in life, be very grateful and never take for granted those opportunities or blessings. Never take for granted the people that mean the most to you.
Work hard, play hard but always be a good human. Choose love over hate. Forgive but never forget. Smile at someone as you walk by, use your manners and offer a hand. Don’t gossip and don’t be greedy. Be true to yourself and those around you.
Sometimes the happiest people in the world are the ones who live with very little. Life isn’t about dying a multi millionaire or how big your home is or how many you have and the cars to go with it. Sure we all want some of that, but it always comes down in the end to those standing around you and sharing the memories that money can’t buy. Thinking about the time we have here and what we’ve done with it.
I’ve been blessed in this life. I will never regret what I’ve gone through to be here, I am grateful for the lessons that taught me strength and patience. I’m proud of my sobriety and the Mother I have been thus far,
If you had to give one life-changing tip, what would it be?
The one life changing tip I would offer is giving up alcohol.
When you make a change such as giving up alcohol you will notice huge changes over time.
Sleep quality, quiet mind, savings, no hangovers, more motivation, priorities change, healthy heart and liver, no shame, no explaining, more love for yourself, better mood. There is so much more to not drinking and removing it from your life.
Many people think it makes life boring, it’s the complete opposite. Waking up every morning feeling fresh and functional is worth removing the alcohol.
Give it a try, not for just a month, try 6 months then another 6 months. You will be questioning yourself whether you really do want to pick up the drink. You may enjoy the clear mornings and an amazing sleep. You may enjoy all the extra energy and the amazing feeling of LIFE!
Who am I to say tho, I only have 17 years alcohol free under my belt and I am loving life!
Lets talk decorating!!!! Just one of my favorite topics!
I have to say interior design has always been in me. My room growing up was so meticulously clean and styled. I knew right from grade 11 that I wanted a career in interior design. Life had other plans.
My husband and I have renovated and designed 5 houses together over the last 20 years. Staying up-to-date with the trends and maintaining the home as needed.
I would say my style of decorating is classy chic modern. I like clean lines, light furniture with colorful accents. Calm and cozy. I do not like clutter. Displaying only a few items of decor. Less is more.
Our Home we sold in South Florida
I love bringing the outside in. A continous flow from outdoors to indoors. We love being outside so our outdoor space needs to be just as stylish and comfortable as the inside.
Our Backyard in South Florida
Our home in Ontario is more of a beachy rustic style. Again bringing the outdoors in. We live at the beach there also so we use beachy but northern rustic style decorating.
Our Backyard in Ontario
I just love sitting in these spaces we’ve created. I feel very blessed when I think of what we have accomplished together. I feel proud of myself when people come to visit and they love what we have done. They feel comfortable and calm in our space and can’t wait to return.
You want your home to be your recluse and safe space. Somewhere to hang your hat and feel happy and relaxed in your home.
All it takes sometimes is a can of paint and some elbow grease. Change out handles on your cupboards for a fresh look. Thrift shopping 2nd hand items that are in good shape can really make the difference if you can’t afford a big project. Ask friends or family if they have items you can have to spruce up your place. Reuse, recycle. Have you ever heard of curb shopping? Grab a coffee and cruise the neighborhood for discarded furniture thats repairable or in good shape. Who has to know?
Decorating is not for everyone but there’s always someone willing to help get the style that’s uniquely yours.
What’s the funniest misunderstanding you’ve ever been part of?
It wasn’t a big group of people that were involved in this misunderstanding…
Years ago, I had to claim bankruptcy due to some unusual circumstances that I had been going through. Its a whole other conversation.
Here goes. While watching the news one evening the news anchor said noone from Canada will be able to travel to the United States without a Visa. You can see where this is going. I turned to my ex and said, “OH my gosh, I can never go to the States! I need a Visa!!!” What? He says.. I said, “Did you not just hear what the news said?!!” He looked at me and started laughing his head off. I did not think this was funny at all. My dad lives in Florida, how will I be able to see him. My ex says,”It’s not an actual Visa credit card, it’s a traveling Visa, so your good!”
Hahahahhahahahhha. Will never forget that misunderstanding 🤪 I am Blond and certainly had a Blonde moment.
I do have a Visa, and a Capital One card so I’m free to go wherever I want! 👌😁
Being Me Sober 