Category: Leisure

Leisure, Mental Health

Is a little chaos good for us?

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Is a little chaos actually good for us?

What a question! I’ve lived a life of chaos pretty much for 40 years until I got sober and could pull myself from the cause of the continued chaos. Was it good for me? No. Not constant chaos so you don’t know which way is up. Chaos makes our minds function very differently. Everything feels rushed, no time to realize what’s actually going on. You can’t focus, sleep, or live a functioning life in constant chaos.

My mind never rested, it was going constantly.  My emotions were on high and I could never completely settle. I had night terrors since I was a child and was continously anxious. Expecting the drop.

Now I have very little chaos and some may say it’s a boring life keeping to myself and having a small group of friends.  Family  members or friends who bring a certain chaos to my life are at a distance. I absolutely love our quiet life. I am calm and can think clearly without all the other rukess circling around.

Some chaos I guess can stir up a bit of excitement and let us appreciate our quiet life that much more, but too much of anything is never good.

There will always be a bit of chaos no matter what we do to stop it. There will always be bumps ahead but it’s how we handle the chaos when we are faced with it. Calm cool and collected.

So when life is going smooth expect a little splash of chaos to show up and get a little crazy. Let it ruffle your hair and put us in high gear knowing that it will soon pass. When it’s over we sit and let out a deep breath and really appreciate where we are when times are quiet.

Leisure

My favorite blogger?

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Who is your favorite blogger to follow?

I don’t have one favorite blogger. I enjoy every blogger who takes the time to write and free them selves of what is taking up space in their minds. I enjoy knowing and reading the other views people have, not just one. I enjoy the creativity and style of certain bloggers but wouldn’t call them favorite. 

Keep blogging, keep sharing, keep the lines of communication open.

Leisure

Recap of yesterday’s step count!

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Well peeps I actually got to 13,456 steps yesterday!!

What a day! Air Canada cancelled our flight to Regina yesterday due to “maintenance” so we had to reroute. Hopped on West Jet with a connector to Calgary, just a quick flight over Regina then get back on another plane to go back another hour and a half to Regina. Whatever it takes to get to our kids right! Keeping her updated as the day progresses.

Okay, we’re on our way to see our daughter and grandbabes just a bit later but we will get there. Not so fast! There was a medical emergency on our flight and was delayed an hour!!! Ohhhh no! Will we miss our connection in Calgary?

As we all got off the plane, some happy to be home, or their Calgary trip for the Stampede this weekend, oh ya that too, others wondering if they will make their connections.

We walked and walked through the airport to our connection gate, we could see our plane, thank god phew. Nope, sorry, says the ticket agent, you’ll have to get on the 11pm flight. Ohhhhh my gosh! Its 3 hr difference from Ontario to Calgary, I’ve been up since 5:30am and it’s now midnight our time. We are tired but wired and frustrated. Its still daylight at 10pm.

We go get our new boarding passes and end up staying the night at the Marriot. Another airport walk around from one end of the airport to the other. But in the back of my mind I’m getting all my steps in. I have to report back to all my fellow bloggers 😁.

I have to say though, I really like Calgary. Well the airport, the vibes. When we walked into the hotel to check in, with a restaurant surrounding the check in desk, I felt like we were walking right into Dutton Ranch! All the cowboy hats and saddles laid out as decor. I actually wish we were all staying here this weekend, but must get back on the plane for our final destination.

Even though yesterday was delayed and frustrating, we knew we’d get there eventually 🙃.  What’s a little pit stop at a place we’ve never been. One for the books!

I did manage to get 13,456 steps in yesterday which is awesome 👌!

Off we go! Too Regina. Too our kids!

Leisure, Mental Health

What I love now, but hated at a younger age.

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What do you love now, that you hated when you were younger?

WEEDING! I hated weeding when I was younger.

When I was 11 Is when my stepmom taught me how to weed the garden. It was the last thing on earth I wanted to be doing. I wanted to be swimming, or hanging out in my room or playing with friends, certainly not weeding my parents garden. Like, why couldn’t they just do it. Huffing and puffing along the way. My mom never gave in though.  She made me finish the entire gardens. The gardens seemed to be so big and take so long to do.

Today, however I’m grateful for those days I hated weeding because it taught me how to take care of my own garden when the day came. I do think back to that still when I’m gardening and give a little thoughtful shout out to my parents for teaching me, and the patience to suffer through my pouting and carrying on during those times.

I can also say I’m a little anal when it comes to my garden. It has to have proper placement, colour and low maintenance perennials. Minimal weed growth. When I do have to weed and maintain the grounds, I find it relaxing. I can go into my own world and tell my plants how beautiful they are! Weird? Human touch stimulates plants and talking to them or having music close to them. They feel the vibration from our voices and the music, the energy we give when touching. 

So, thanks mom for all those lessons that I thought would ruin my life. 🫶👊

When I sit back on my front porch or backyard deck I look at my gardens and smile because they are beautiful and I’m proud of my hard work and of course lessons learned, not just about weeding but about appreciating and taking care of what you have.

Happy Earthing!

Leisure, Mental Health

A time I followed my gut and it turned out exactly right?

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What’s a time you followed your gut and it turned out to be exactly right?

I would have to say, my gut tells me when to list and where to buy real estate. I’ve somehow had an intuition for just the right time to list our properties and what price point for a fair and quick sell, as well as what area to purchase in. We’ve never over paid or under sold.

It is more than just my gut, it’s doing a lot of  research, driving by communities to see what the area is like, looking into recent solds and checking out what’s listed and for what price and how long its been on the market. Those are all factors.

Overall though, it could be a great neighborhood, the perfect home and my gut will tell me if something is off about the home or the area. I’m able to see a lot of things people may skim over, and I try to stay tuned to my energy. When it comes to living in a home you don’t want bad juju!!

It’s difficult to know when to trust your intuition or “gut” but, 9 times out of 10 our gut is not wrong.

Listen to your body and and gut. Just remember to feed it well!

Leisure

What languages I speak and how it’s impacted my life?

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Which languages do you speak and how did that impact your life?

Sorry to disappoint but, I only speak English.  Boring ol English. I am a Canadian but do not speak French. French is one of the country’s two official languages and was taught in elementary school but optional after grade 10.

It is said that English is the hardest language to learn because there are so many hidden letters and multiple meanings for the same word. It is tricky. Like, Know, No. Where, Wear. Knife – silent K…Knit – silent K again…etc..

It really hasn’t impacted my life not learning another language because I am not an adventurous traveler. I’m pretty much a home body. It doesn’t mean I don’t love going to the Caribbean or Mexico. Sure! Let’s go! I knew I always wanted to be a mom and eventually become a Realtor, so another language was never something I focused on. I didn’t need to.

If the question today was, “Whats a language you wish you learned when you were younger?” I would say Spanish. I love their accent and language. When you greet them they are always so happy and upbeat.

I do know a few words like, hello, how are you, one zero beer please! You know the important stuff, and where’s the bathroom! And of course, Thank you.

It is wonderful to learn a new language. It just gets a little more difficult when we become older, but doesn’t mean we shouldn’t learn. It could have a very positive impact that we didn’t know we possibly could use one day.

Hummm, maybe I should look into taking Spanish lessons. 🤔

Gracias, que tenga un buen día!

Leisure, Mental Health

The best advice I’d give a younger person.

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What’s the best advice you’d give to someone younger than you?

The advice I would give to someone younger than me would probably sound a lot like what our parents or grandparents told us.

Don’t rush into marriage, kids, house, dogs etc. Save your money, be independent and so on. This is all good advise but what about living your authentic life?

I would tell them to be true to themselves, love yourself through and through to be able to give your heart to someone else fully and completely. Be who you want to be and don’t let anyone crush your dreams. Its okay to say no. Be mindful of your friends because not everyone is. Don’t trust so easy and ask lots of questions. Don’t be afraid to be silly and crazy every once and awhile, it’s good for our inner child. Listen to your intuition and your parents. We’ve been your age, we know! Always be respectful to everyone that deserves your respect but give yourself the same. Keep learning through life, keep reading and spend more time in nature than on your devices. Learn to communicate and express how you feel, think before you speak or react. Forgive yourself for the mistakes you’ve made and let go. If you need help, ask.

Lastly, i would tell a younger person that it will all be okay. Just make the right choices, live life to the fullest and take care of you first. Give 100% to yourself before you give 100% to someone else.

Keep smiling 😃

Leisure

A book, a movie or TV show I wish I could experience again for the first time?

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What’s a book, movie, or TV show that you wish you could experience again for the first time?

Sitcoms back in the 80s and 90s. It was all about TV. The great series of shows or sitcoms. The Young and The Restless. Family Ties, Knotts Landing, Dallas….

I loved coming home at lunch and watching the Flintstones or Leave it To Beaver. I sometimes wish to go back there. It was simple and it meant watching TV or movies with your family. That’s what I miss. Not so much the shows but the time together. Today we are distracted by our phones or just not settling enough or too busy to make the time. There are so many distractions compared to back then.

To me, remembering tv, and or movies is not so much about the shows, it was about who I watched the shows or movies with.

Keep those memories and cherish them because one day you may think about those times and it really may have nothing to do with the TV or movie, just the bonding itself was what it was about.

Leisure, Mental Health

A common misconception people have about happiness?

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What’s a common misconception people have about happiness?

Its the big one, Money Will Make Me Happy! If I just had more. If I get that new boat, house, car….

We’ve all heard that. There are so many things we think will make us happy or, happier.  Its never something you can buy, practice or fake. 

Are you happy a little, or happy, or whole heartedly happy?

There’s only one way to be truly happy and that’s to love. Love yourself, love others and be grateful. Be grateful and love what you have,not what you don’t.

Happiness comes from within, your inner peace and happiness.

You can find happiness by doing things for others and not expecting anything in return. Paying forward. Loving and supporting one another. Smiling and saying hello to a passer by. Letting a car merge in-front of you when you can see their blinker….don’t speed up, don’t curse and yell at the person who clearly cannot hear you. You get it!

Myself, I’m a happy person.  Thankfully. There are days, like today, you’d think I was miserable. But if you knew me you’d know why I am in a mood, but I get through and know tomorrow is a new day and it will be better!

Is that happiness or optimism 🤔?

I know money or status will not bring happiness. Those are temporary. I know happiness is a gift and not always granted so easily for some, but if you open your heart and look within, you’ll find some happy there.

Leisure, Mental Health, Stages

What skill would I master if I could and why?

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If you could instantly master any skill, what would it be and why?

Carpentry is a skill I wish I could instantly master!

I’ve always been passionate about interior design, but as I’ve gotten older and expanded my inner designer, I’ve wished I was a carpenter or wood worker.

It became something I’ve wanted to do when I started my Art journey. I wanted to be able to do my own frames or cool wood signs, maybe hairing bone patterns or just being able to master the right cuts. Math was not my forte in school and has not improved over the years, lol. All the inches and mm, cm, ugh…My mind goes fuzzy!

My husband and I have renovated, gutted and beautified 5 homes since we’ve been together over the last 20 years. It has been both stressful and exhilarating! I absolutely love revitalizing old outdated homes to bring them back to life. We’ve been very fortunate to be able to do this. Its not cheap and finding the right contractors is also a chore. We’ve been very lucky. 

There’s also a mastery when renovating homes and reselling. We are not home flippers, I am just someone who has visions of design in any home I’m in. But when doing this you have to be mindful of how much to invest in your home to be able to profit when selling. NEVER over design. Always keep in mind the necessities of a home to max out. Little details add a lot of value.

Watching the contractors do their magic has often made me wish I knew carpentry. If I could turn back time just a little I think I would have loved to be a home builder. Maybe in my next lifetime!

There’s still time for me to pick up that skill saw and make those cuts, but I think at this point in my 56 years I will leave it to the professionals.